Have more than one child? Which is your favorite?

I was out and started to get in a discussion about this recently. I think it is important enough to blog about.

I believe that if you have more than one child, you have a favorite. No one can convince me otherwise. I see it in plain site all the time. One child is always favored more than the other ones.

Of course most people have more than one child and therefore are horrified when I say that. They insist that is not the case. But who would ever admit it? No one. Admitting it means shame for some reason. I think relationships would be much healthier in families if it was all brought to the forefront.

Now if I said all grandparents have a favorite grandchild many of you would comment and completely agree with me. But if that were true, then how could the same not be said for your own children.

I don't care what you say, there is one child you have that you like better than the other, that you click with better, that you probably let get away with a little more, that you probably admire and love and are amused with a little more. There is nothing wrong with that. It is human nature. I am not saying you don't love the other one or more you have any less but I bet if you had to choose whether you would like to spend time with one or the other, you would know the answer immediately.

And if you have siblings, take a look at that. Do you think one of your siblings is favored over you or the others? Or are you yourself the favorite?

I really don't think there is an easy answer to any of these questions and I am sure that statistically there are some people that don't have favorites and are unbiased. But my bet is on the numbers being higher than we think.

I do have a favorite and I admit it!

FINALLY - Someone is bitchy enough to say it like it REALLY is!

BITCHOLOGY

When I stand up for myself and my beliefs, they call me a bitch.

When I stand up for those I love, they call me a bitch.

When I speak my mind, think my own thoughts or do things my own way, they call me a bitch.

Being a bitch means I won't compromise what's in my heart. It means I live my life MY way. It means I won't allow anyone to step on me.

When I refuse to tolerate injustice and speak against it, I am defined as a bitch.

The same thing happens when I take time for myself instead of being everyone's maid, or when I act a little selfish.

It means I have the courage and strength to allow myself to be who I truly am and won't become anyone else's idea of what they think I 'should' be.

I am outspoken, opinionated and determined. I want what I want and there is nothing wrong with that!

So try to stomp on me, just try to douse my inner flame, try to squash every ounce of beauty I hold within me. You won't succeed. And if that makes me a bitch ,so be it. I embrace the title and am proud to bear it.

B - Babe
I - In
T - Total
C - Control of
H - Herself

B = Beautiful
I = Intelligent
T = Talented
C = Charming
H = Hell of a Woman

B = Beautiful
I = Individual
T = That
C = Can
H = Handle 'anything'

I don't take credit for the above. It was forwarded on to me by a good friend exactly when I needed to read it but she had no idea that was the case.

Embracing my bitchy side,

If you have an appointment with me, you best show up.

This has happened to me lately. I hire someone and make an appointment with them and then they don't show up. Or they do show up and seem good at first and then they do half the job and then don't show up after that.

I am having that problem today. I got half of a job done and was told they would be back to finish the job today between 10-12. At 1 p.m. when no one had showed up or called I called and asked what the hell was going on. I was told they would find out and call back. I got a call back and was told they would be here at 4. Well that is fine because apparently I have no life and nothing to do but wait around for people to show up at my house. Right?

And the reason only half the job was done was because someone failed to do their job right again. Isn't that always the case? Why can't anyone do their job anymore? Why is there no more customer service? No one cares anymore. I feel like America is going to hell in a handbasket. No wonder all the jobs are going oversees. Who wants to work with lazy non-customer oriented Americans?

It surprises me to no end when people complain that they have no work. If you have no work you might want to look on the inside and see if your the problem. I am so sick and tired of people complaining. Everytime you complain about something, please remember as you are pointing fingers at the other person, you have 4 more pointing back at you.

And you know what, on the other hand I don't blame people for not doing their jobs anymore. When I quit my last job, it took 3 people to replace me. It then became apparent to me that I was one person who was underpaid and overworked. Did my old job value me? Did they care that I worked my ass off and went above and beyond the call of duty? No. No one is irreplaceable. This is where we have all failed. Both as managers and employees. We don't value the employees that do their jobs and work hard and we don't reward them. We take them for granted. And they move on. We are all at fault and something has got to change. This is the change we need first and foremost.

Believe me this would solve all the problems our society has. Health care etc would all fall into place if we could just get this worked out. Obama has it all wrong and it is about time that someone set the record straight.

I might be a small voice in a big pond but don't forget, I can make giant waves.

I am back

After a short hiatus I have decided to resume my blogging. I seem to never be at a shortage for words lately. Your in for a real treat.

xxoo to all of you who are still fans! And hugs to everyone who has constantly asked when I was going to start again. Here is your answer. :)

Degrees in something useless --

I don't understand why people get degrees in something that they can never get a job in. Why do you spend 4 long hard years in college getting a degree in history if you never have any intention of teaching history? Or people who get a degree in psychology. Unless you are going to be a doctor or counselor, this degree is not going to help you find a real job.

I also cannot stand that they complain. They complain they cannot get a job at this pharmaceutical company in sales or at this business as a computer support personnel. Well did you not think you would need at least a business degree to do that? It infuriates me.

Get a degree in something you want to do. If you don't know what to do, then get an education degree so you have something to fall back on. That is the most flexible degree. You can do a lot with it and that doesn't necessarily mean teaching children. You can work for a non-profit. They are always looking for education majors. You also can work at any company in training, teaching employees or new clients what ever that company wants. You have options.

Let's face it, you are most likely not going to be the next Van Gogh or make the NY Times Best Sellers list. A degree in English or Art is probably not going to help you get a job unless you want to teach those things and then your only option is English or Art teacher. I am not saying don't follow your dreams!!! I am saying dreams take money. Living requires money. If you cannot make a living you cannot follow your dreams. You can paint and write in your spare time. You can still follow your dreams and fulfill your goals with another degree. If you are THAT talented, you really don't need a degree in it to be successful!

Use your brain. Get a degree in something that is going to be able to earn you a living! Believe me if you don't, you will regret it.

And parents, don't let your children fall into these traps! Don't live your dreams through them. Be practical and make sure you pay for an education that your children can use.

One more note -- it is ok not to go to college. If you child doesn't want to go. Don't make them. It never works out and only wastes your money. There is nothing wrong with going to technical or vocational school! Have you seen how much mechanics and plumbers make these days? Brake a pipe or get stranded on the side of the rode and you will find out! And everyone loves to make fun of people who go to beauty school. However when you hand them $200 for 1 1/2 hours to color your hair, you change your perspective.

Do something productive, get a degree in something that can help you make a living, and you will be successful no matter what your goals in life!

I did follow my own advice

Time is money

You know I used to hear that a lot when I was young and I was like blah blah blah. But now I agree with it more than ever.

I don't have any time. Time is the thing I am always chasing anymore. Have our lives become busier? Or is there really that much more to do?

I feel like I never have a free moment. I thought with all the technology we have today we would have MORE time not less. That is not the case. I find I am more productive than I ever was, I never run out of things to do and I use every piece of technology available to make my life easier yet I am always chasing time.

Now I don't have time to blog. I should have time, I know everyone is thinking I should but I don't. School is in. I feel like I am in too. Signing up for this, volunteering for that.

And I got a blackberry to make my life easier. Yeah, I can talk on the phone and get off and e-mail and facebook and everything else but I am doing that in the middle of carpool line and while shlepping from here to there trying to get errands done. I don't have any moments of down time. When I do I look at my task list on my blackberry and find a mountain of things I haven't even considered yet. My task list is my back burner. Things that I need to do or want to do if I have 1 millisecond of free time I come across.

Is this a better way of life? Are we more productive? I eat lunch and talk on the phone or type at the same time. It never ends. I don't know if the answer is yes or no. I don't know if this is a good thing or a bad thing.

And my memory. I cannot remember what happened yesterday much less last year. Ask me if I remember xyz and I can guarantee I will say no. Someone mentioned an acquaintance the other day and I SWORE I had no idea who they were talking about and she believed me. Then I was talking to another friend and mentioned it and she told me exactly who it was and how I knew her. That is not good.

I used to work a good 8 hour day. That meant I got there early and left late and put in hours on weekends sometimes when I didn't have to. And I multi-tasked and honestly did the job that would require 2 workers and when I quit, 3 were eventually hired to replace me. Not 3 one after the other, my job was split 3 ways! That was BEFORE all of this technology. Now my DH works 24/7 but still only gets paid salary.

It used to be that salary was THE way to go. All of the big jobs worked for salary. That is not so smart these days. If you are smart, you want to be paid by the hour. You want to get over time and holiday pay. That is the way to go because TIME is MONEY in this new world of technology!


Proud to punch the time clock next time --

Extremists and Alarmists and Fence Sitters

I am so blessed to have a lot of friends. Some lived in sin, gay, liberal, atheists. If you don't know me I am not gay, did not live in sin, do not consider myself liberal most of the time and I am not an atheist or agnostic or secular or whatever word makes you feel identified religiously or non-religiously.

I am trying to make a point. I love my friends equally. I don't always like what they do and I might make different decisions than they do or have past and present. I am sure they feel the same way about me and think I am insane sometimes and I probably am. I respect and admire all of my friends uniqueness. I would be bored if they were exactly like me.

And I can honestly say, I don't have a single friend who is exactly like me. I cannot believe that anyone else does either. And if you think you do, you need to broaden your horizons some.

My friends know what I think. Know I say things some times that I probably shouldn't. But they know with me, what you see if what you get. And in return I respect them in the same way. I even like to joke about how we are different or tease them about their perspective on something. That is what makes life fun and that is what I value in an individual.

However, truth be told, we are not going to all get along. There are two types of personality traits that I find hard to swallow. Alarmists, extremists and fence sitters.

Lets start with alarmists. These are the types that tell you your children are going to not be as smart or going to be obese because you gave them formula and to top it off you fed them from a bottle full of BPA. What were you thinking? Or they tell you that your shampoo is going to cause you to get cancer. The vaccines your giving your children are going to suck out their brain cells. The government is putting a chip in the H1N1 vaccine to keep track of us all by GPS.

You know the people that are constantly sounding the fire alarm but there is no fire. Yes it may be dry out or it could even be lightening but what is the probability that it is actually going to strike your house or that your dry pine straw will automatically combust? And isn't there ALWAYS a danger of fire. Theoretically what is the chance of me ever experiencing one?

And then you have the extremists. Extremist have causes. There causes are all they can talk about. They talk about it so much they turn everyone off to their cause, even those sometimes that participate or found their cause. Extremist embarrass me when they are being extreme about something that I am passionate about. Extremist embarrass everyone really and they just don't get it. They never send their cause forward, only backward.

That leads to the fence sitter. There are several types of fence sitters but I have to say fence sitters are the ones I despise the most. I would rather live with an extremist or an alarmist than a fence sitter because at least they have an opinion.

There is the fence sitter who just has no opinion. Never says anything negative or positive. They think they are being smart. Guess what? You are boring.

There is the fence sitter who listens to the right of the fence and the left of the fence. Sometimes they venture off the fence and sit in the greenest of grass with those there and say hey I am like you. Then the very next day you look across and they are sitting on the brown dried up grass and saying hey I am like you and I agree with you. They talk out of both sides of their mouths. You never know where they stand. They are really all over the place. Yet they pretend like they are sitting on the fence. Really they are playing both sides. Neither side ever respects them because no one really knows where they stand or what they are for or against. And when you say one thing and then do another, you just come out as a liar when you are probably just too unintelligent to know the difference.

But there is a far worse fence sitter. There is a fence sitter who sits and takes notes. They really belong to one side of the fence or the other but they don't want you to know which side. So they take notes and pretend to be on both sides. Then when you are not looking they go to their side of the fence and tell everyone what the other side is thinking. That side loves to hear what you have to say but don't ever expect them to trust you either. And the other side is only fooled for so long before they find out about you as well. No one likes a mole....ever.

You might not like where I am going but you sure know where I stand,