Have more than one child? Which is your favorite?

I was out and started to get in a discussion about this recently. I think it is important enough to blog about.

I believe that if you have more than one child, you have a favorite. No one can convince me otherwise. I see it in plain site all the time. One child is always favored more than the other ones.

Of course most people have more than one child and therefore are horrified when I say that. They insist that is not the case. But who would ever admit it? No one. Admitting it means shame for some reason. I think relationships would be much healthier in families if it was all brought to the forefront.

Now if I said all grandparents have a favorite grandchild many of you would comment and completely agree with me. But if that were true, then how could the same not be said for your own children.

I don't care what you say, there is one child you have that you like better than the other, that you click with better, that you probably let get away with a little more, that you probably admire and love and are amused with a little more. There is nothing wrong with that. It is human nature. I am not saying you don't love the other one or more you have any less but I bet if you had to choose whether you would like to spend time with one or the other, you would know the answer immediately.

And if you have siblings, take a look at that. Do you think one of your siblings is favored over you or the others? Or are you yourself the favorite?

I really don't think there is an easy answer to any of these questions and I am sure that statistically there are some people that don't have favorites and are unbiased. But my bet is on the numbers being higher than we think.

I do have a favorite and I admit it!

FINALLY - Someone is bitchy enough to say it like it REALLY is!

BITCHOLOGY

When I stand up for myself and my beliefs, they call me a bitch.

When I stand up for those I love, they call me a bitch.

When I speak my mind, think my own thoughts or do things my own way, they call me a bitch.

Being a bitch means I won't compromise what's in my heart. It means I live my life MY way. It means I won't allow anyone to step on me.

When I refuse to tolerate injustice and speak against it, I am defined as a bitch.

The same thing happens when I take time for myself instead of being everyone's maid, or when I act a little selfish.

It means I have the courage and strength to allow myself to be who I truly am and won't become anyone else's idea of what they think I 'should' be.

I am outspoken, opinionated and determined. I want what I want and there is nothing wrong with that!

So try to stomp on me, just try to douse my inner flame, try to squash every ounce of beauty I hold within me. You won't succeed. And if that makes me a bitch ,so be it. I embrace the title and am proud to bear it.

B - Babe
I - In
T - Total
C - Control of
H - Herself

B = Beautiful
I = Intelligent
T = Talented
C = Charming
H = Hell of a Woman

B = Beautiful
I = Individual
T = That
C = Can
H = Handle 'anything'

I don't take credit for the above. It was forwarded on to me by a good friend exactly when I needed to read it but she had no idea that was the case.

Embracing my bitchy side,

If you have an appointment with me, you best show up.

This has happened to me lately. I hire someone and make an appointment with them and then they don't show up. Or they do show up and seem good at first and then they do half the job and then don't show up after that.

I am having that problem today. I got half of a job done and was told they would be back to finish the job today between 10-12. At 1 p.m. when no one had showed up or called I called and asked what the hell was going on. I was told they would find out and call back. I got a call back and was told they would be here at 4. Well that is fine because apparently I have no life and nothing to do but wait around for people to show up at my house. Right?

And the reason only half the job was done was because someone failed to do their job right again. Isn't that always the case? Why can't anyone do their job anymore? Why is there no more customer service? No one cares anymore. I feel like America is going to hell in a handbasket. No wonder all the jobs are going oversees. Who wants to work with lazy non-customer oriented Americans?

It surprises me to no end when people complain that they have no work. If you have no work you might want to look on the inside and see if your the problem. I am so sick and tired of people complaining. Everytime you complain about something, please remember as you are pointing fingers at the other person, you have 4 more pointing back at you.

And you know what, on the other hand I don't blame people for not doing their jobs anymore. When I quit my last job, it took 3 people to replace me. It then became apparent to me that I was one person who was underpaid and overworked. Did my old job value me? Did they care that I worked my ass off and went above and beyond the call of duty? No. No one is irreplaceable. This is where we have all failed. Both as managers and employees. We don't value the employees that do their jobs and work hard and we don't reward them. We take them for granted. And they move on. We are all at fault and something has got to change. This is the change we need first and foremost.

Believe me this would solve all the problems our society has. Health care etc would all fall into place if we could just get this worked out. Obama has it all wrong and it is about time that someone set the record straight.

I might be a small voice in a big pond but don't forget, I can make giant waves.

I am back

After a short hiatus I have decided to resume my blogging. I seem to never be at a shortage for words lately. Your in for a real treat.

xxoo to all of you who are still fans! And hugs to everyone who has constantly asked when I was going to start again. Here is your answer. :)