Thursday, November 19, 2009

Have more than one child? Which is your favorite?

I was out and started to get in a discussion about this recently. I think it is important enough to blog about.

I believe that if you have more than one child, you have a favorite. No one can convince me otherwise. I see it in plain site all the time. One child is always favored more than the other ones.

Of course most people have more than one child and therefore are horrified when I say that. They insist that is not the case. But who would ever admit it? No one. Admitting it means shame for some reason. I think relationships would be much healthier in families if it was all brought to the forefront.

Now if I said all grandparents have a favorite grandchild many of you would comment and completely agree with me. But if that were true, then how could the same not be said for your own children.

I don't care what you say, there is one child you have that you like better than the other, that you click with better, that you probably let get away with a little more, that you probably admire and love and are amused with a little more. There is nothing wrong with that. It is human nature. I am not saying you don't love the other one or more you have any less but I bet if you had to choose whether you would like to spend time with one or the other, you would know the answer immediately.

And if you have siblings, take a look at that. Do you think one of your siblings is favored over you or the others? Or are you yourself the favorite?

I really don't think there is an easy answer to any of these questions and I am sure that statistically there are some people that don't have favorites and are unbiased. But my bet is on the numbers being higher than we think.

I do have a favorite and I admit it!
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1 comment:

  1. I happened upon your blog and was amused by this post. I'm a mom of 2 boys and am not sure I love one more than the other, but it's totally different love. One is cuter than the other, but one is more cuddly. One aims to (and does so successfully) please me, while one gets under my skin. And one is much more endowed than his brother (yes, it's true). That being said, there is something about a first-born that is very special, for we got to learn everything together.